Powerful words

                                                            




                                                                Powerful Words


Have you ever read something and thought " That is exactly how I feel too" ?  When I read this statement from His Holiness the Dalai Lama, I thought  " Dalai Lama has put into beautiful words how I wish my life to be."




May I become at all times both now and forever
A protector for those without protection
A guide for those who have lost their way
A ship for those with ocean to cross
A sanctuary for those in danger
A lamp for those without light
A place of refuge for those who lack shelter
And a servant to all in need.




This is the reason I left my home in Florida of 60 years and moved to North Carolina away from family and friends. This is reason for opening  Annabelle's Haven for domestic abused women and children.  Thank you Dalai Lama for putting into words my deepest feelings.

LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO HURT

                                            

                                                   LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO HURT




Love should be without restrictions
Love should be trust without fear
Love should be without demand
Love should accept me for who I am


There is so much hurt in this world from bullying, racism, violence, war.  We should not have it  in our love life!  Our home is suppose to be our safe haven.  But very often it is where one finds the deepest heartache.  Sometimes we have to give up on people not because we no longer care but because they don't care.  Love will never hurt you but a person who does not know how to love can hurt you.  One of the worst part of being abused is the betrayal.  The one who was to honor and protect us is the one who is harming us.


We need to educate men that they are to love and protect not hurt their partners.
And hitting is not love, mind games are not love, and controlling is not love.  Our churches, schools and governments need to address these issues. We also need to educate and remind women that God did not create them to be abused physical, emotionally and mentally.  All women and men are to be loved, cherished and protected.  We also need to start with are children so they understand it is not alright to bully or abuse another human or animal.  We need to change and that change must start with each of us. We need to understand God did not make a mistake on us.  We each are worthy of the very best.  We each are worthy of a safe, secure loving home.  We each must be the change we wish to see in the world. 


Love is not suppose to hurt.  Love is suppose to fill us with joy!












 

"The secret to change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old but building the new"       Socrates

Socrates born 439BC, wrote the above statement yet in all these years we still have not grasp the concept.  We spend millions of dollars to fight various causes ( war, poverty, violence ) yet  how much energy and money do we use to heal these situations?

Annabelle's Haven is taking Socrates idea to heart with our unique approach to healing women and children affected by domestic violence. Annabelle's Haven's two year residency program mission is  to honor and empower the women and children as they go through the healing process.  Along with one on one advocacy and participation group support there will be skill building classes, job readiness, life skills parenting classes, nutrition classes. We will be helping the women not only to survive but to thrive.

Once a week there will be a  discussion of their problems and issues.  For true strength is when you have a lot to cry about but you choose to smile and take another step forward.  We will than celebrate their accomplishments.  By celebrating their millstones we are putting the focus on how far they have come not on how far they have to go.  


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Children the Silent Victim of Domestic Violence

                                  

Studies show millions of children witness domestic violence annually.  These children also experience trauma from the physical and verbal abuse that transpires in the home.  Children raised in domestic violence homes are often at risk in a number of ways: post-traumatic stress syndrome, failure to thrive syndrome, depression, discipline problems, falling behind in school, nightmares and sleep disruptions, and many more.  As the children become teens there is antisocial behavior, school truancy, substance abuse and violent or abusive dating relationships.

Annabelle's Haven  twofold concept is the healing the women and the children affected by domestic abuse.   Children counselors will work with the children in conjunction with the mother's counselors.  This will help the mothers better understand what the child has gone through and how best to parent the child.  Our children counselors will use age-appropriate strategies to help the child express feelings about what has happened and learn to deal with those feelings.  The children will know that their family is in a long term safe & secure environment at Annabelle's Haven.  The major emphases of all the programs are to increase the child's sense of physical and emotional safety and to develop self esteem and strong social skills. 

It is easier to build up a child than it is to repair an adult.  We therefore must change the cycle of domestic abuse starting with our children. We need to  give them back their childhood.  Children need to feel safe.  Children are great imitators so we need to give them something great to imitate. At Annabelle's Haven they will see, hear and know how precious they are and how they are worthy of the very best life has to offer. Healing our children will help break the cycle of domestic abuse.
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