I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR

I am woman hear me roar is a song written in the 70's by Helen Reddy and song writer Ray Burton and performed by Reddy.  Today the song just popped in my head and I thought yes that is what I wish to do.  I am a woman and I wish to roar for the injustice of domestic violence.  I wish to roar that a child abuse report is filed every 10 second!  That 1,440 people an hour, 34,560 per day and 12 million per year are suffering from domestic violence! We can no ignore this facts.  Society silence is giving this injustice it's consent. 

I also wish to roar and tell the world there are solutions.  Annabelle's Haven and other long term Domestic abuse shelters can help.  They can give these women and children time to heal their physical wounds than they can work on the emotional and mental wounds.  As the women and children are healing they will be in a safe secure environment.  Most women can stay 30 days in a shelter.  This is a wonderful start.  However, 30 days is hardly enough to heal from the physical wounds but they are than required to find a place to live, a job, school for the children.  All this is overwhelming and a large majority go back to their abuse.  We need long term care so the women do not just survive but they thrive.  They are not just a statistic they can be a shining example for other women and for their children.

It is my dream that I may soon roar with happiness as the tide turns and the cycle of domestic abuse is broken.

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LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO HURT

                                            

                                                   LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO HURT




Love should be without restrictions
Love should be trust without fear
Love should be without demand
Love should accept me for who I am


There is so much hurt in this world from bullying, racism, violence, war.  We should not have it  in our love life!  Our home is suppose to be our safe haven.  But very often it is where one finds the deepest heartache.  Sometimes we have to give up on people not because we no longer care but because they don't care.  Love will never hurt you but a person who does not know how to love can hurt you.  One of the worst part of being abused is the betrayal.  The one who was to honor and protect us is the one who is harming us.


We need to educate men that they are to love and protect not hurt their partners.
And hitting is not love, mind games are not love, and controlling is not love.  Our churches, schools and governments need to address these issues. We also need to educate and remind women that God did not create them to be abused physical, emotionally and mentally.  All women and men are to be loved, cherished and protected.  We also need to start with are children so they understand it is not alright to bully or abuse another human or animal.  We need to change and that change must start with each of us. We need to understand God did not make a mistake on us.  We each are worthy of the very best.  We each are worthy of a safe, secure loving home.  We each must be the change we wish to see in the world. 


Love is not suppose to hurt.  Love is suppose to fill us with joy!












 

"The secret to change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old but building the new"       Socrates

Socrates born 439BC, wrote the above statement yet in all these years we still have not grasp the concept.  We spend millions of dollars to fight various causes ( war, poverty, violence ) yet  how much energy and money do we use to heal these situations?

Annabelle's Haven is taking Socrates idea to heart with our unique approach to healing women and children affected by domestic violence. Annabelle's Haven's two year residency program mission is  to honor and empower the women and children as they go through the healing process.  Along with one on one advocacy and participation group support there will be skill building classes, job readiness, life skills parenting classes, nutrition classes. We will be helping the women not only to survive but to thrive.

Once a week there will be a  discussion of their problems and issues.  For true strength is when you have a lot to cry about but you choose to smile and take another step forward.  We will than celebrate their accomplishments.  By celebrating their millstones we are putting the focus on how far they have come not on how far they have to go.  


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